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Wednesday, August 22, 2007

Wed, 22 Aug 2007 06:36:39 GMT

- i'm outta here. bye! -

Tuesday, August 07, 2007

Tue, 07 Aug 2007 14:54:48 GMT

maybe this is something i cant live with.

Wednesday, August 01, 2007

Wed, 01 Aug 2007 04:18:55 GMT

SO SO SO CUTE. Lamira at 4 months. aww shucks!

Monday, July 30, 2007

Mon, 30 Jul 2007 09:01:42 GMT

iraq won the asian cup! the people were so happy they shot off stray bullets and ended killing about 7 people and injuring 50. this country just cant get a break. it was heartening though, to read about the importance that this victory had on the people. sunnis, shiates, iraqis, the US military all partied and cheered together. in desperate times, any victory is paramount and offers the victims hope and joy. thats nice.

the simpsons movie was hilarious. amazing. funny. silly. cute. and all that. go watch.

why are relationships always hard? im not just talking about my own but so many of my friends are going through problems or have some issue and this ranges from married couples to a couple that have been dating for 2 years to those who are just starting out - a whole spectrum and issues come up all the time. and theres never a right or wrong. like for some of them, i'm really good friends with both parties so i really get to hear both sides of the story and it's so hard to define the person at fault. there are always 2 sides to it you know? but here's what i can tell you now.

TO ALL BOYS: Forget about trying to find a female who will be direct and tell you exactly what she wants. FORGET IT. It doesn't exist. We will always understate our feelings and we will always speak in code somewhat. You ARE supposed to figure out the code. We expect you to figure out what we really mean, not what we actually say. It's part of your "job scope". Live with it. If you can't figure out what she really means or what your next step should be, call up a girl friend of yours and ask her. We'll tell you what you should do.

dont you see? we cant tell you exactly what to do because firstly, it makes us controlling (god forbid) and secondly, it takes away the romance of it all, the charm of it. i mean imagine your girlfriend having to tell her friends - "yeah he came to pick me up all the way at changi even though i didnt ask him to." (obligatory reaction: "wow thats soo sweet. he's soo great." girlfriend nods and beams with pride) VS. "yeah he's coming to pick me up now because i made specific demands for him to pick me at the taxi stand at 10pm". (obligatory reaction: silence. girlfriend starts to bitch about your relationship.) Trust me on this boys. Just accept it as your lot in life. Face it la, you cant live without us anyway. *haha*

yes but back to relationships. i used to think that this friend of mine had like a great relationship. he's a totally cool dude. not possessive, not clingy, nice, well loved etc etc and she's pretty damn awesome too - easy going, sweet, caring blah blah. i remember when they first got together all those years ago, all my friends and i were like "yeaahh that totally makes sense." but i spoke to him recently and he was telling me that even while he agreed he and his gf were great on paper, there were still so many issues they have to solve, so many that they still face to this day. he said in some ways you have to treat your relationship like its your job - you always need to work to make it better, to impress your peers, to rise. he said that after a while you can't be afraid to bring up issues, that you need to trust that its all about being in a partnership and all of it has to be worked through together.

nicole has been married to eric for the past 3 years and they were dating for about 10 years before they got hitched. i asked her once if she ever faced an issue that she thought they could not overcome. and she said that there's always this fear that eric will snap, give up, that anger gets in the way and damage matters. and we both agreed that what matters most is how you fight. whether both parties are willing to take the first step sometimes, whether both are willing to let their pride go, whether both can always remember even while fighting how much you love the other person.

i dont really know what set me off on this today. just thinking i guess.

Tuesday, July 24, 2007

Tue, 24 Jul 2007 05:51:41 GMT

O. M. G.

This is absolutely brilliant. Get this. I just found out that my brother's ex-girlfriend and des's ex-girlfriend are very very good friends!

hmmm ... and my brother's current girlfriend is also a good friend of my brother's ex-girlfriend so really they might actually have met before! ... ... ... You say small world, i say ... NO SHIT.

He's away sailing now but I am willing to bet 10 bucks that des knows/ has met my brother's ex-girlfriend before.

Fan-fucking-tastic. Is it really just not possible to segregate and separate? I mean COME ON. This isn't even like "studied in Singapore together" kinda crap. SEPARATE WORLDS. She and i are in no way intertwined EXCEPT through like EVERYONE ELSE around us.

Oh this is fun. ok gotta run. so much more um.. "exploring" left to do. weee....

Thursday, July 19, 2007

Thu, 19 Jul 2007 01:30:39 GMT

don't start something you can't or don't want to finish.

it frustrates me so much when people dont get the idea of working as a team. i mean its a simple concept. what affects you affects me you know? i need that sort of energy you know. things that are run or done with all parties in mind. instead of simply making your own decisions and assuming that it works for all. it isn't just enough for me to be happy and satisfied, if the other party or parties aren't then i wanna work at it until there's some sort of middle ground. it all has to work together. why is that so hard for SOME people to understand???

Wednesday, July 18, 2007

Wed, 18 Jul 2007 08:04:26 GMT

OH. MY. GAWD.

The boredom is slowly but surely killing me.

Hey, i actually like Fergie's "Glamorous"! i know im slow but yeah its pretty cute. i like the 'take your broke ass home' part haha

ok im leaving early today. i dont care. mannnnnnn .... i wanna drink

Thursday, July 12, 2007

Thu, 12 Jul 2007 07:22:45 GMT

I don't usually like to talk about stuff like this, but this, to me is really worth swooning about :

So i had a fever last night and the meds weren't working. Des actually took a bowl of water, with some ice cubes and a towel, to cool me down. He spent an hour at least mopping down my face, my back, my neck, to try and bring the fever down.

Consider me swept off my feet.

Tuesday, July 10, 2007

Tue, 10 Jul 2007 08:29:46 GMT

fine. whatever. its my fault anyway. its the consequence of giving too much. fk it.

Monday, July 09, 2007

Mon, 09 Jul 2007 09:38:13 GMT

In the end, I did get my fight. Only that you wouldn't term it a fight, more like a bullying. I'm just an evil person. How does he put up with me?? Oh well, it needed to be said i suppose.

We kept the TV on throughout the night while the Live Earth concert was on and i think it filled me with subliminal messages because I woke up the next morning wanting to plant a tree. And this morning before leaving for work, I actually took a walk around my garden. Which i never do. Of course you could argue, that the very idea of leaving your TV turned on for the whole night while you're asleep, just negates everything that Live Earth stands for.

The Men's final last night was pretty damn awesome. Nadal gets full props for getting that close and Federer gets respect for his humble speech at the end of it.

I seriously need a weekend away from this place i think. The last time i left the country was in March, early March I might add. It's been 4 months!